Introverts unite! It’s OK to keep to yourself.

Posted by on Oct 3, 2016 in Noobness | 53 comments

What is an introvert?

Webster says it’s a shy, reticent person.  I had to google reticent because I’m obviously brilliant, and it means not revealing one’s thoughts or feelings readily.  You learn something new every day!  So, yeah that describes me.  Hi, my name is Amanda and I am an introvert.  Please do not approach me to make small talk, as it’s pretty much my nightmare situation.

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What does being an introvert mean?

It basically means that we prefer to keep to ourselves.  Introverts aren’t really very party friendly, and prefer to have a small core group of friends rather than a whole bunch.  Introverts don’t really like to go out and do things, preferring to stay at home and be comfortable.  Personally, I get very stressed and uncomfortable in new situations.  I am perfectly happy being at home, on Facebook, or reading a book.  I do like to game on the PS4, and it does mean talking to new people, but it took me a really long time to get where I am now.  2 years ago when I started playing Destiny, I literally would not talk in a party lol, it was just way to weird for me and definitely out of my comfort zone.  When my husband and I started playing, I would only talk to him in the party, then after we had played with a work buddy of his for a bit, I would talk to him once in a while.  Fast forward to now, and I happily chat for hours with my Destiny friends, and the occasional new person.  I overcame that particular fear, but it would be OK if I didn’t!  There’s nothing wrong with an introverted person, it’s 100% OK if you don’t want to go to parties, or new places because it’s scary; however, you might be missing out on something that you could really love in life.

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My husband and I went to a marriage retreat sponsored by the Army a few years ago.  It was an amazing opportunity, we left the kids with some close friends and it was just he and I for the weekend.  The weekend was spent in classes, which had a speaker that actually talked about Introverts and Extroverts and how they impacted a relationship.  We found out what we already knew, which was that we are both introverts, and it makes for a very interesting couple lol.  We don’t talk much, I mean we talk about the kids, and we do love to have discussions on things that we are both passionate about, but we are not small talkers, so there’s a lot of comfortable silence between the two of us.  While in the class, the speaker asked a lot of us to stand and talk about things and let me tell you, I literally was sweating, dry mouth, nervous.  Just the thought that I might be called on to stand up and talk made me feel sick to my stomach.  Luckily, my husband has become used to talking in front of people, because of his time in the Army, so I deflected everything to him!  We did leave that retreat with a lot of really great info, and I realized that I really am no good at social situations. It’s not something I really have an interest in working on it though, I’m ok with being socially awkward.


Is being an Introvert a bad thing?

Short answer.  Absolutely not.  Every single person on this planet is different, and that is absolutely OK.  Should you get out of your little introvert box and maybe try and socialize more?  Maybe.  Doing new things is good for the soul, and if you feel that you should interact with people more, then go for it!  If you feel that you are perfectly content with not be a social person, cool!  You do what you are comfortable with, keeping in mind that you might be missing out on some fun parts of life by staying in that box.  I’m fine with being in my box, but I do get lonely at times.  I have online friends, but as a military wife, we move a lot so I don’t have many IRL friends.  Once in awhile I get the urge to go to dinner or a movie with a girl friend, but then I have this little voice in my head saying nah, you’ll be much happier if you just stay at home and watch some more Doctor Who.  I usually have to be prompted to go out, and there have been many times where I have literally felt relief at a cancelled event.  I get myself all kinds of anxious when I think ahead about having to socialize.  Going to any kind of event is a big ball of stress for me.   Oftentimes that stress manifests itself into anger or irritability and I have to find a way to diffuse it without coming across as a mean person.  Sometimes I fail and people get the wrong idea about me, because really I’m nice, sometimes it doesn’t seem like I am, but it’s just because I’m so uncomfortable at the time.  Those that take the time to get to know me, find out that I’m actually awesome.


Don’t take it personally.

There are times when my phone rings and I have to put it to voicemail.  I just don’t have the mindset to talk on the phone.  It’s an introvert thing.  Even talking on the phone is socially stressful!  It doesn’t matter if it’s a family member, a close friend, or a business.  I get stressed at the thought of having to carry a conversation.  I literally get anxious when I know that I have to make a phone call, it seems silly but it is what it is.  I prefer talking via text or messaging, as it’s MUCH easier for me to express myself through typing words rather than speaking words.  So anyone out there that is NOT an introvert, don’t take it personally if someone avoids your calls or invitations out.  It’s possible that the person you’re calling or inviting is just not socially adept!


Work through it.

While I am totally fine with being socially awkward, I’ve decided to really work to extend myself outside of my introvert box.  I have made the huge decision to become my own boss and sell LuLaRoe, which means I have to get over my fears!  I’m absolutely going to have to get out of my comfort zone if I want to be successful.  I’m going to have to learn how to chit chat with people, face to face and not be awkward.  I’m not really sure how to not be awkward, but maybe I’ll just keep being awkward and people will find it endearing.  I don’t know what’s going to happen but I do know that I’m going to work hard on face to face interaction through selling a product that I love and hopefully everyone that I sell to loves.  It’s going to be hard, it’s going to be so stressful and I’m certain that at the end of each day I’m going to be exhausted while at the same time feeling so fulfilled, hopefully!  I’m a proud introvert, but I have aspirations to do well in my job so I’m going to bust my booty to get myself out of that box.  There are a ton of introverts throughout history that have made a huge impact on the world, Dr. Suess, Rosa Parks, Steven Spielberg and Mark Zuckerburg (thank you so much for creating my favorite social platform!)  J.K. Rowling is an introvert, and she’s pretty much the most amazing author ever.  These people did it, so I can do it too!

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I’d love to hear from those of you that are introverts, or even those extroverts out there, if this opened up your mind to some of the differences between us!

For those that want to proudly display your interovertness, here’s a cute shirt! Comical Shirt Ladies Introverts Unite Were Here Uncomfortable and We Sport Grey XL

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Army PCS and the money you should get.

Posted by on Sep 21, 2016 in Army info, Noobness | 0 comments


You just got orders, what now?! Well first thing you should do, is get on the housing list if you intend to live on post. A lot of people don’t realize that as soon as you have orders in hand, you can get on that list, you don’t need to wait until right before you PCS. I just wanted to throw that info out there in case some of you didn’t know.

What I really want to talk about though, is the money that you should get to help with your move. Useful info, when PCSing, the army considers one travel day to be 400 miles. So say you’re pcsing from Ft. Stewart, GA to Ft. Sam Houston in San Antonia TX, it’s roughly 1100 miles from one post to the other, so the army will give you 3 days of travel time. You’ll want to remember that later on in this article. The info that I’m giving you is for Conus moves, I have not personally done an Oconus move so I don’t want to give that info out, but if we ever do one I will totally report back!

Now for the good stuff!

There are several different allowances that the Army gives when one PCS’s. The first that we’ll talk about is DLA. DLA stands for Dislocation Allowance and is meant to offset the cost of settling into a new home. DLA Sheet. Depending on the post that you are going to/leaving, you might be able to get your DLA before you PCS, although more and more posts are doing away with that option since more and more people have to use the Government Travel Card during a PCS. If you can’t get advance DLA, then you can expect it to take about 2-4 weeks after inprocessing for the money to hit your account. Make sure that you request DLA if it’s not offered to you.

Next we will talk about Per Diem. Per Diem is the money that you get to help you move, it’s meant to offset the cost of food, and lodging while traveling. Each year the per diem rates can change, this link will show you the current rates, Per Diem. The service member gets 100% of the rate, the spouse and children 12 and over get 75%, children under 12 get 50% of the rate. You will get that rate for the service member as well as each dependent for each day of travel.

Quick example, The Skidoosh family consists of the service member, one spouse and two children, one that is over age 12 and one that is under, and they are allotted 3 days of travel. You’ll get 100% of the standard conus rate for the service member which is $140, then you will get 75% for the spouse and 75% for the child over 12, which is $105 each equaling $210, and finally you’ll get 50% for the child under 12, which is $70. Each day of travel will be $420, so the total Per Diem that you would get for 3 days of travel is $1260.

Keep Receipts!

Yay money! So we’ve gone over DLA, and Per Diem. Now is a great time to make sure you all understand the importance of keeping EVERY SINGLE RECEIPT! When the service member inprocesses, he/she will need all receipts in order to be reimbursed. When we PCS, we put together a folder that we use for all important papers, copies of orders and receipts we acquire while traveling, that way everything is in one place and my husband just takes the entire folder with him for each day of processing. We keep all of the papers from the movers, because we are all about the army moving us, and the papers from the housing company if we lived on post.

Moving on! Next is MALT, Monetary Allowance in Lieu of Transportation, which is given to offset the cost of gas going from one post to the other. You will be reimbursed for up to two cars, and like Per Diem, the rate can change each year. Right now, the rate is .24 cents per mile. So the Skidoosh family has 2 cars and they are traveling 1100 miles for their pcs, so they can expect to get $264 per car, for a total of $528. Easy peasy.

So I’m excited to tell you guys about this next gem, which I think isn’t very well known. Who here has heard of TLE? I know a lot of you probably have, and you think you know all about it, but did you know that TLE can be used both before and after PCS? Did you know that as soon as your HHG (house hold goods) are packed up by the movers, TLE kicks in? I bet you didn’t, and if you did then yay you, smartie pants that has done your research! So, TLE is meant to offset the cost of food and lodging when you are displaced, meaning once your things are packed up and you can’t live your daily life, you can get TLE.

Now, TLE is pretty confusing, and the army uses some kind of super secret formula so it’s really hard to figure up exactly how much you’ll get unfortunately, you’ll want the service member to ask the secret society to figure it up for you. If you have a big family, like I do, then you’ll most likely meet the cap which is $290 per day. Some people have to use all the TLE after they leave the old post and once they get to the new post, because they don’t have a home yet. If you’re going from one post and you already have your home on the other side, you can use some of the TLE before you leave. So if your HHG is packed up, you can use TLE to pay for lodging and food. If you’re in a hotel room that has a fridge and a stove, then you will get partial TLE, which again is a complicated formula and I wish that I was able to figure it up for you, but I’m not a part of the super secret society that figures up TLE.  It’s always recommended that you utilize the on post hotel if possible. KEEP RECEIPTS! The 10 days that you are allotted can be used however you need. If you need 3 days at the old post and 5 days at the gaining post, you can do that.

Seriously, KEEP THEM!

So to summarize. KEEP RECEIPTS, 10 days max which can be used however you need either at the losing installation or the gaining, it’s meant to offset the cost of food and lodging as soon as your HHG is packed up and also before your HHG has been delivered. Isn’t that awesome?! So when you get to your new home, if you don’t have your HHG yet, grab a hotel room, the army will pay for it! If you’re using the government travel card, then you can put the room and your food on that card and expect that it will be reimbursed to you when the service member inprocesses.

I really hope that this info has helped you, families that are moving on military orders should not struggle to pay for the move, so I wrote this to ensure that you’re getting every single dollar that you can. If you guys have any questions, please don’t hesitate to comment and I will get it answered, if I don’t know, I will find someone that does! I intend to do more blogs on making military life as a spouse easier, so please come back to me!

Have a magical PCS!

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Settin’ up shop…

Posted by on Sep 12, 2016 in Noobness | 0 comments

Hey guys! My goal is to post a blog a day, but life gets in the way. Friday I had these amazingly delicious cupcakes delivered, and I was SO EXCITED about the delivery part, (because I’m a total lazy bum) that I bit into the cupcake and completely forgot that I have a bad tooth. Big mistake. Long story short, I ended up at the dentist on Saturday and I’m going in tomorrow for a root canal (DUN DUN DUN!) I’m terrified, like legitimately scared, but that’s another blog. This blog is intended to just let you guys know about the store I set up on Amazon.
In trying to earn money to supplement my husbands income, I’m exploring all kinds of avenues. So I set up shop, it’s the SkidooshShop! I’m throwing up all kinds of nerdy randomness on it, so you should check it daily, in case I have something totally cool that you have to have! As usual, I’m droppin the link here SkidooshShop, clicky and check it out! Also, I’m working on getting an email sign up thingy added here so you guys can sign up for my blog updates. Hopefully I’ll have that live tomorrow. I know you’re all anxiously waiting to get a daily email from this nerd! Have a magical night guys!

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All the feels…

Posted by on Sep 8, 2016 in Noobness | 1 comment

Taking a moment to talk about how awesome I feel right now. I got on facebook this morning and found that my favorite author, which you guys may remember I blogged about the other day, Christopher Pike, responded to my comment!!! I’m so happy that he took the time to read my blog and see the amazing impact he’s had on my life, and continues to have! His response prompted others to come to my blog and one even left a comment! I can’t even really describe how I felt when I read the comment. I guess it’s similar to euphoria, I mean, I was just so thrilled that someone read my words and then took the time to respond to me. It’s really an amazing feeling, and has given me the nudge I needed to really throw everything into this blog. So those of you that are reading, please know how thankful I am that you’re taking a few minutes of your very busy lives, to read what I have to say. I appreciate you so much. I hope that eventually you will all become nerds, because nerds are cool, and everyone wants to be cool. Oh and I’m leaving a link again, for another one of his books, you should buy it.  Till next time…

Thirst No. 1: The Last Vampire, Black Blood, Red Dice

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Blogging is hard

Posted by on Aug 31, 2016 in Noobness | 1 comment

When I made the decision to blog in an attempt to make money I knew that it was a large undertaking and that it would be a long, hard process. That being said, I’m dedicated to making this work, so here I am…trying to figure it all out. We need money, we just bought our first home and while it’s super exciting and fun and jump up and down worthy, it’s expensive!

For the last 3 years I have had an at home job which worked for me, I made enough for us to live on and have fun with, and it was great. Then right around the time we closed on the house, that job ended. Sad face. So here I am, trying to find something else and struggling hard core. While we didn’t have a lot of debt before owning a home, we definitely accrued a decent amount after buying because we had to fill our big, beautiful new home!

My point here, I’m hoping that you guys will just follow along in my journey. My hopes are that this will work, and that maybe some of you will be inspired to do your own! We all have a story to tell, and this is a fantastic way to tell it. I’m going to work on prettying up this blog today, wish me luck!

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