If your kid is in a show at school, here’s how to NOT be a jerk.

Posted by on Sep 30, 2016 in Random cool stuff | 52 comments

Don’t be a jerk!


Last night my daughter participated in a talent show. Ella talent show 2

We bought her a special outfit, she went to weeks of rehearsals, practiced her song over and over again and was SO EXCITED about performing. We brought our entire brood, which we do whenever one of the kids has any kind of performance, because we believe in supporting them no matter what, so all 6 of use were there, and my daughter was backstage waiting anxiously for her turn.  The show was done in the cafeteria, so there was a whole lot of echoing.  They were selling snacks and drinks in the back of the room, while the show was being performed in the front.

So, the show begins, right away we cannot understand what the announcer is saying so I’m a bit skeptical of how the whole show is going to go down.  Also, there’s a lot of people in this small space and they are pretty loud.  Here’s rule number one on how not to be a jerk when you’re at a school performance.

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Seriously. Just be quiet!

Grown adults talking as if there aren’t adorable children performing on the stage for everyone to see.  It takes so much bravery to get up on a stage and perform.  Every one of those kids deserved absolute 100% attention and they weren’t getting it.  Adults were having conversations, even the school employees were talking to each other while children were performing.  People please, if you are at a performance, especially when it’s a bunch of elementary school children, give them your attention!  That’s why they are there, they want to perform for you!  They want you to love what they are doing!

So the show continues, each child bravely walking across the stage and performing their hearts out.  Unfortunately, for this particular show, the speaker was horrible and you could barely hear the children that were singing.   As the show progresses, the noise in the audience just gets louder and louder, until finally a teacher got up on the stage and asked people to please be quiet. Should be common sense right? After that announcement from the teacher, the cafeteria started to clear out. This brings me to my second rule on how to NOT be a jerk.


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Listen, if I have to sit there and endure the pain of listening to your child sing completely off key and off rhythm, which as a singer is incredibly difficult for me, then you better damn well sit there and listen to MY child!  My daughter came over to us about halfway through the show to get a drink of water and she said to me “Where’d everyone go?”  She was sad because half the cafeteria had cleared out because their child was done.  Unacceptable, support ALL of the children, not just yours.

Unfortunately, my princess was the third to last performance.  I say unfortunately because by the time she got to the stage, most of the audience was gone, and the ones that remained were very restless, i.e. LOUD, bringing me to my third rule on how to NOT be a jerk.


Please teach your children how to sit quietly and respectfully.  It’s something that they will need as adults, so start when they are little!  DO NOT allow them to run around the back of the room, as if they are on a playground playing tag, sit their cute little butts down and have them watch the show.  There’s a time and a place for playing, teach them when that is.  I have 4 children, and while they are very far from perfect, they do know when it’s time to sit down and shut up.  I taught them that early on by stringing them up by their toes and squirting them in the face with a squirt gun when they made noise.  Just kidding, I’m not a jerk.  My husband and I work hard to make sure that our kids are respectful and that’s part of why we make them go to these performances that are literally excruciating to sit through, it gives them LIFE SKILLS.

My daughter performed beautifully, ignoring all of the noise that was being made while she sang, and she ended up getting the loudest applause when she was done, or maybe I just heard it that way, I might be biased.  When she was done, we sat and listened to the rest of the children, cheered for them and when it was all over, collected our kids and left.

I hope that you take these helpful hints the next time you take your child to a performance.  Remember that yours is not the only one performing!  All of those children have feelings, and excitement and trepidation and they really just want you to cheer loud for them when they are done.

In closing.  DON’T BE A JERK.
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  1. Well said!!! Ella You Rock

  2. Some good tips! Seems like these should all be common sense, right? But apparently common sense…isn’t so common 🙂

    • Honestly, it’s not. It’s kind of scary how uncommon it is nowadays lol. Thanks for stopping by!

  3. Love this, and love that it’s written with a sense of humor!

    • I think everything should be done with a sense of humor! Thanks so much for stopping by!

  4. This is an excellent post! I agree with all of your suggestions and think it’s fair to say, as parents, it’s our job to be supportive and not “be a jerk” so that our children will learn and emulate that too!

    • Yes!!! Be who you want your children to be, because they are definitely watching and learning every day. Thank you for stopping by!

  5. I totally get all of this…
    However, that being said… the “stay until it is over thing”… They need to take into account bed times… When my daughter was 5, she wanted to be in the talent show. Her bedtime was 7pm. We finally left at 7:30… I heard later it didn’t end until 8:45… There were children performing 3-4 times… and some that were incredibly lengthy. thats not really acceptable in my opinion.
    From then on we had to decide whether or not to let her participate. Its a total catch 22. 🙁

    • Sure I get bedtimes, we had our kids on a schedule growing up and they went to bed at 7, but we did occasionally allow them to stay up. My daughter was disappointed that she had such a small audience by the time it was her turn to perform, her disappointment hurt my heart. I would stay simply to avoid another child feeling that sadness.

  6. I haven’t quite figured out how to keep my children quiet – yet:) LOL!

    • I hear duct tape works for everything. I kid! Thanks for stopping by!

  7. Yes to all of this! I’m learning that these days people don’t have manners. It can be so frustrating.

    • It is frustrating! The only thing we can do is use it ourselves and hopefully teach it to the next generation! Thanks for stopping by!

  8. So true! I love this post. Sometimes parents need to behave first before they expect good manners from their kids. 🙂


    • Yes! Behave the way your want your children to behave when you are in front of them, so they can learn! Thanks for reading!

  9. What a joy to witness your own child perform with so much confidence! I am reminded of my daughters when they were still younger. 🙂
    And it is really good to support them by visiting as a family.

    • It was absolutely amazing watching her perform and honestly I didn’t even notice all of the noise until I went back and watched the video, then I was really sad because we couldn’t hear her, only the noise! We do everything as a family, it’s beautiful! Thanks so much for reading!

  10. I totally agree! Parents need to display the kind of behavior they want in their children. Getting up and leaving and being loud in a performance is not right!

    • Exactly! Thanks so much for reading!

  11. So true! I enjoyed reading this. Following on what Chaza have said already, parents need to behave first – children learn from their parents.

  12. You’d think that would be all common sense but sadly it isnt. Great advice!

  13. Such good advice and “don’t be a jerk” applies to so many situations in life!

  14. Great article for parents

  15. This is a huge pet peeve of mine! I don’t understand why you even show up if you are just going to be loud and obnoxious! I give a little more leeway to kids, and hope that their parents will help keep them quiet.

  16. A quiet kid is such a blessing. Great post thank you for sharing

    • LOL! It’s true! Thanks for reading!

  17. This is a great topic. hadn’t thought about how often have been interpreted by people leaving early. Great points.

    • Honestly, it wasn’t something I had thought about either until my baby girl asked why there were so few people left. I was so heartbroken for her! Thanks for reading!

  18. So true! Loved reading it! Great advice!

    Rita | http://www.styleroundtheclock.com

    • Thank you!

  19. So nice post:) I agree with you! and you princess looks fab in that outfit

    • Thank you! I thought she looked amazing too, but again, I’m biased lol. Thanks so much for stopping by to read!

  20. It should be fun to listen to everyone!

  21. Ha. Thanks for this. I should print this out next time there is going to be show that is in a 2 weeks from now at our school lol

    • Haha, you could pass it out at the beginning of the show! That would be hilarious!

  22. Thanks for sharing!

  23. Kids in outfit and performing are always so adorable. So cute.

    • They really are!

  24. I can’t believe people would leave before the show is done! That’s terrible!

    • Right?! Just stick around and support the rest of the kids! Thanks for stopping by!

  25. The things you have pointed out happen all the time and are just ridiculously rude. Good on you for pointing them out!

    • It just makes me sad for the kids that worked so hard and are so proud to show off their hard work! Thanks for visiting!

  26. YES! I have seen so much of this happen. I wish I could print out a good manners card and hand it out LOL

    • That would be fabulous!

  27. Awesome post for parents to read!

  28. Love this and I LOL a lot! great points

    • I’m so glad I made you laugh! Laughter is a beautiful thing. Thanks for visiting!

  29. Congrats to your daughter for having the guts to get on stage and perform!

  30. This is so important. You wouldn’t do that when you go see a play at the theatre, so why would you do it here?

    • Exactly! It’s so great to see someone picking up what I’m putting down! Thanks so much for visiting!

  31. The noise level can be very frustrating. Especially when its your child up there. Just because their child is finished they think that it is a free for all chat-a-thon. Loved this read!

  32. I love this post! I totally get the part about ‘ then you better damn well sit there and listen to MY child!’ So rude when people just freakin’ up a leave in the middle of a show. And don’t get me started on loud children who can’t keep quite! lol

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